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Honesty versus Flirty

I understand and know men and women are different on most levels.  Why is it hard for a woman to be honest, yet it is not hard for most men to be honest?

 

A perfect example of this would be when a woman looks at a man and smile.  The two engage in conversation and the woman begins to touch him or hold his hand in little ways.  When the man makes a move to know more or ask her for an actual date, she would reject him.  She may say she just wanted to be “friendly.”  She may say she has a man, but thought you needed a friend to talk to.  Are you serious?  You touch me, smile at me, let me buy you drinks, and talk about our most personal experiences in life and you are just flirty?  So, why can’t that woman be honest to that man upfront?  Why lead him on? What would a woman think if a man does that to her?

 

Most men who have these types of experiences would push women away from them because they are afraid of the same repeating itself.  Most men would not return the smile and would have distance between him and the woman in order not to be touched by the woman.  Other men would not even look at women for the fear of being played or having a woman be flirty to them.

 

As I look back on my life and experiences, I can see why good guys finish last.  I can see why good guys don’t come across the finish line at all.  I can see why some men decide to be by themselves.  There are some men who can take hints and clues, but most of us don’t take hints or clues.

 

Am I upset or angry towards women?  No.  We are who we are.  I just wonder why is it hard for a woman to be something they EXPECT out of a man… honesty.  If a man is not honest a woman will feel used and think the guy is just into games.  If that is the case, what is it called when a woman does it?

 

~Boston Brian

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Who Finish Last?

The one thing I hear a lot of is “I’m sorry.”  What are you sorry about?  Why are you sorry?  Are you sorry for getting caught?

 

This is coming from episode after episode of cheaters.  Most episodes about women usually have the same outcome.  That outcome is the women who usually say “I’m sorry, but I did not want to hurt you.”  So, they did not want to hurt the man’s feelings because he is a very nice guy.  It’s funny that the guy they cheat on their boyfriend with is a bad boy.  Why can’t they be honest and say the guy is just too nice and they need a man who is going to dog them out because that is what they are either used to or want?  Ultimately, that is what the women are saying.   Most women are attracted to the bad boy and have men who are too nice as an arm piece.  They are usually in tears and want to talk about things after getting caught as they are afraid of being left out in the street from the home shared by their soon to be ex-boyfriend, yet they had no desire to talk before being caught.  The women want to beg for forgiveness when they see two men fighting over them in the effort of finding the truth.  They have the nerve to have their identity withheld because of what?  They are not concerned with their identity while they are cheating.  It is like someone in the Klu Klux Klan wearing a cheat to conceal their identity because they are afraid of getting chastise if their face is truly revealed.  Although the police is the new Klu Klux Klan, but that is a different write.

 

I’m sorry, but I don’t fight another man over any woman.  If a woman cheats on me, I am not taking it up with him, but with the woman because she knows better.  I was raised to open doors for women.  I was raised with treating women with respect.  I was raised not to use the term “female” to describe a woman.  A woman is a woman just like a man is a man.

 

Don’t get me wrong, men cheat too and they usually have the excuse of “it’s not like that” or “what are you doing?”  This posting is not about the man cheating, but about the woman cheating.  In reference of who finish last the question remains.  Do nice guys finish last?  Do women refuse to date a nice guy as the last man on this earth?  Lots of younger women refuse to settle down with a nice guy.  They want that bad boy.  As they get older, they began to see the damage of their cheating as Karma comes back and bites them in the azz.  All of this is a vicious circle that gets worse from generation to generation.  In my experiences women have children at a very young age and they are forced to settle down a bit more due to the child.  Now, they want a good man because their situation has changed.  Is this what it takes to desire a good guy?

 

Some say nice guys finish first.  Some say nice guys finish last.  I say nice guys don’t finish at all; not even if he is the last man on this earth.  I cannot wrap my brain to think how bad boys get the most attractive woman or have a collection of fine looking women, and men who really deserve a woman is left in the sea as shark bait.  Most nice guys get the women that others don’t want.  These women are usually extremely overweight.  These women are usually not too educated.  These women are those who are really not your type, but you are forced to date them because you cannot find a woman who is your type and you are getting older.  These women have children and they cannot find the type of man they really want due to the change in their circumstance(s).  Some tell me I am too picky, but answer me this question.  Should I really lower my standards in order to date a woman who is very obese, not educated and cannot speak with proper English when the time calls for it, or have a village of children then realize other men are not attracted to them?  Like other men and women, I want to be in love with a woman who is going to love me for me and care for me, but I believe I should not sell myself short to get what I really don’t want.

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People Ask Me Why…

When I tell others who my team for football is, they often ask why.  Since 1984, I loved the Chicago Bears from Chicago, Illinois.  Like every Chicago Bear fan, I was ecstatic when the Chicago Bears won the Super bowl in 1985.  With the ups and downs, I still held true to my Chicago Bears.  I bought a heavy coat, hats, a Walter Payton jersey, and a Brian Piccolo jersey.

Other people choose their teams due to team colors, gang affiliation(s), and what they may see celebrities wear in support for different teams.  I will admit there are certain colors I am attracted to, but I don’t like the team.  I am a Leo, so the Lion is my Zodiac sign, but that doesn’t mean I should buy everything Detroit Lions.  The Saint Louis Cardinals give all military personnel free tickets when they play at home, but that does not mean I have to buy everything Saint Louis Cardinals.  I am from Boston, but that does not mean I have to be a Boston Red Sox fan.  To be plain, I will not wear something due to team colors and I am not affiliated in a gang.  It is a shame that gangs pick certain teams as their “cut.”  Cut is a term used by motorcycle clubs in connection to their jackets and/or color affiliation(s).

I grew up despising this team.  I grew up hating everything they stood for.  I thought of this team as slime due to their team colors.  If you would have to guess the team, who would you guess that I despise?    You are correct… the Green Bay Packers.  I did not care who was on the team.  I would call them Slime Bay or the Slackers.  I recorded the first Chicago Bears preseason game against Denver Broncos.  Instead of recording this game it recorded the career of Bret Favre.  The highlights of his ups and downs as well as his addiction to pain killers were very interesting.  He overcame by looking for help of his addiction.  This brought me to a new level of respect for Bret Favre.   The more I viewed the film of his career, the more I liked him.  The more I viewed the team as a whole, the more I see how compassionate they are.  They all tend to have fun and money was never a big issue with any of the players.

Someone told me the “G” on the Green Packers’ Helmet means Greatness.  As with other people in the football world, I though the “G” was for Green Bay; or Slime Bay as I referred to them as.  As I researched what the “G” stood for on the helmet, it is true.  George Braisher in 1961 created the trademark logo which we see on the helmets of the Green Bay Packers today.  Since then, Georgia Bulldogs and Grambling State Tigers have asked Green Bay if they could use the logo, in their own way of course.  Green Bay gave them permission to use the logo, but not the exact logo.  This information came from the Business Insider, which is a reputable news source.  When I read and researched this information, I was compelled to change from the Chicago Bears to the Green Bay Packers.  I know a lot of people would not like my choice of team and may consider me as a traitor, but I like teams that matter to me.  If I buy a hat or team apparel, you bet I have a reason for it; and a good reason at that.

I consider myself “Great” in so many ways.  Some may not agree with me and believe I am vain.  I have a belief that is very simple.  If I don’t believe I am great or phenomenal, who will?  I often referred to myself as phenomenally awesome.  I say that often because I believe the more I say it in my head, the more I will believe it.  It is like watching uplifting YouTube videos that tell you to say certain things to yourself to help you though the things that are putting you down in life.  On that note, I am awesome.  I am phenomenally awesome.  I am number one.  I am great.

I will not give up my Walter Payton or Brian Piccolo jerseys because I consider them to be great players with heart and passion, but I will sport the “G” for Greatness to remind myself daily of who I am in my eyes, in my parent’s eyes, and in my dog’s eyes.

Sources Available Upon Request

~Boston Brian

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What We Cannot Say…

At times, people have a way of putting words together that we cannot express ourselves.  I consider myself to be a good guy.  I never said I love you first to anyone.  They usually say it to me, even my family; but they know I love them by the special things I do to show it.

I have not many friends because I had been hurt a lot before.  Some had made fun of me because of my race and culture.  Others had attempt to bully me because of the things my parents had and I was given good things in my life by them.  Even some made fun of me because I would die for my dog, knowing they have a short life span on earth.  I see people take for granted of the little things in life.

Watching YouTube videos most times, I have learned things about myself that I would not have known before.  I have learned what it is like to be homeless with nothing.  I have learned what it is like to be ridiculed and toss around like a bag.  I have learned what it is like to be afraid.  I have learned what it is like to be loved.  I have seen through the eyes of a dog about pain, resentment, and hurt.  I have seen through the eyes of other animals that are hunted for game not as a source of nourishment.

I look out of my window in my home and stare at the green grass and listen to the birds sing.  I look at white butterflies that fly around the home.  I look at my vehicle sparkle as the sun bounces off it.  I look at the wind blowing the tops of the trees.  I look at the high flying hawks and wonder what it is like to be that free.

Afraid of being who I am, there is one thing no one can take away from me, well actually two things.  The first thing is my education and knowledge.  The second thing is how loved I am by family and God.

I will like to share a video with you.  I hope you enjoy it and find it comforting in some way.

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Why Did Conor McGregor Lose To Floyd Mayweather Jr.?

 

 

How could someone train in a sport that is considered one of the most brutal sports in the entire world lose to a boxing champion?  How could this be?  First we have to understand the rules of both Mixed Martial Arts and Boxing.

In Mixed Martial Arts, there are three rounds.  Each round is three minutes in length with one minute rest between rounds.  Championship rounds can go up to five rounds.  As stated earlier, each round is three minutes in length with a one minute rest between rounds.  Mixed Martial Arts use brute force and strength to overpower your opponent fast and quick.  You can also use all parts of your body as weapons against the other, except for head-butting, which makes it for a more versatile and unrestricted sport.  Due to this, we have a cause and effect relationship.  The cause of using all parts of the body would have an effect of landing more illegal blows because it is not really controlled.  Once your opponent is down, the aggressor can continue to pound away, within the specific guidelines, until the referee stops the bout, resulting in a knockout for the aggressor.  Mixed Martial Arts competitors must have stamina and endurance to handle at least five rounds of fighting.

 

In Boxing, it can be up to ten rounds.  Each round is three minutes in length with one minute rest between rounds.  Championship rounds can go twelve rounds.  Boxing uses brute force and speed, along with endurance, to overpower your opponent.  Generally, Boxers would take about two or three rounds just to get used to their opponent compared to Mixed Martial Arts.  Boxers only use their hands as means of delivering punishment to the other fighter.  Because of this, there are not as many illegal blows because it is a bit more controlled.  Once your opponent is on the canvas, the aggressor must go to a neutral corner so the referee can begin the ten-count.  If the fighter is unable to get up during this ten-count, the aggressor wins the bout by way of knockout.  The referee can also stop the bout for safety reasons, causing the aggressor to win by technical knockout.  Boxing competitors must have stamina and endurance to handle up to twelve rounds of fighting.

 

Now we understand a bit more about Mixed Martial Arts and Boxing, we can make a determination about what happened to Conor McGregor.  Don’t get me wrong, I think both fighters are very exceptionally good fighters.  Conor’s record is twenty-one wins with eighteen by knockout and three losses.  In my book, that is a damn good record. Floyd’s record is forty-nine wins with twenty-seven by knockout and no losses.  In my book, that is perfect. I understand many people don’t like Floyd Mayweather Jr.  Maybe it is because Floyd is cocky.  I personally like Floyd Mayweather Jr. and I believe he has a right to be cocky.  If you had his record, would you?  I know I would.  He backs up his cockiness.  I believe conditioning was what cost Conor McGregor the bout.  Conor’s conditioning could have been about five rounds or so because he is used to having that type of endurance.  Floyd’s conditioning is a lot longer because he is used to having the type of endurance to go twelve rounds or longer.

This fight reminded me of the Muhammad Ali versus George Forman fight in Zaire, Africa.  Muhammad forced George to punch himself out in the early rounds.  When Muhammad saw the opportunity, he seized it with great fashion to win the bout.  I believe that is what happened in this fight.  Floyd allowed Conor to hit him with some hard shots, thus getting tired as the rounds went on and Floyd seized the opportunity to take command in the latter rounds.  If Conor trained for endurance for the latter rounds, I am sure it would be a good fight until the end.  Endurance is the key in most bouts, as well as skill.  Conor is heavily skilled in the Mixed Martial Arts world.  Floyd is heavily skilled in the Boxing world.  Floyd improves his record to fifty wins and no losses.  I toast both fighters for a job well done.  I long time ago, I called Muhammad Ali the cerebral assassin in the heavy weight division.  I use the same term with Floyd Mayweather in his weight class.

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~CF Boston Brian

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Have You Ever Thought?

Have you ever thought you would be single for the rest of your life, and why?  This is my story.  I am middle-aged and I don’t have children.  The reasons for me not having children are rather personal to me as I don’t want to have a child out of wedlock.  I don’t judge others because I don’t want others to judge me.  What other people do, they do.  What I do, I do.

 

I have joined a lot of sites regarding dating.  These sites range from free sites to paying sites with a guarantee of finding your match or mate.  Like most people, I have criteria.  Some settle for things they choose to accept or think they have to in order to fall in love.  Others really settle for things they know they don’t want, yet they don’t want to be alone either.  Some things that I refuse to settle for are:

 

  • People who brag or boast about themselves ALL the time. This leads me to believe they are selfish.

 

  • Women who use a LOT of profanity. Don’t get me wrong, we all do it.  Even I use profanity at times when I am highly upset and angry.  We are human, but in everyday conversations and all that comes out of a woman’s mouth is profane language, that is an instant turn-off.

 

  • An obese woman. Our bodies change over time and we tend to gain a bit of extra weight.  I understand that.  However, I refuse to date any woman that weights more than I do or who is considered obese.

 

  • A woman with a lot of children. I have had issues with a lot of men who are the babies’ daddy.  Some women have kids by three or more men.  Some women tend to have children at a very young age because they believed the lifestyle of what a man had promised them.

 

  • A woman without access to a vehicle. I just got out of a relationship similar to this.  I live in one area and she lives in a completely different area.  The only way we got to see each other is if I drove to her location, which is almost two hours away.  I don’t mind taking the train, but that limits a lot of things to walking.  That is good on comfortable days, but not when it is raining or snowing.

 

  • Ghetto fabulous women.  Ghetto fabulous is a mindset where you are not working and looking for a handout in many ways.  These are the type of women who do not pronounce or talk properly when the mood calls for it.  A perfect example would be “ain’t no way,” “you is,” or “is you.”  That is poor grammar and how would it look taking a ghetto fabulous woman on a company-hosted function with her saying those words?  Sure, I use slang, but I understand when to use it and when not to use it.

 

I write a lot of women regarding their profiles, getting to know them, and looking for genuine conversations.  Unfortunately, I don’t get any response from them.  I do get messages from women who are not even close to my type.  They are those listed above.  I am far from a racist person.  After all, I am of mixed race.  There are a lot of women of European descent who are very obese that want to talk to me and beg me to meet them.  There are a lot of women of African descent with a village of kids that wants to meet me and beg me to talk to them.  There are a lot of women of all races who want me to talk to them or meet them because they have a bi-racial child.  There are a lot of women who believe I should be honored to be seen with them when others don’t even want them.  It gives me the impression that I am their LAST chance or resort.  I don’t believe in sex before marriage, but I am human so it may or may not happen.  I don’t believe in living together or shacking unless you are in the mist of getting married to each other.  Lots of people judge me on these things.

 

I believe these are the reasons why I am still single.  Do I have to bend for what I believe in just to get a girlfriend?    Do I really have to settle for things that I know I am not attracted to in order to get a girlfriend?  Everyone that I am attracted to are not attracted to me and vice versa; but I feel I should not have to settle for someone who I know I will have issues with later on in life just for the sake of being with someone.

 

With all of this said, I would love to hear from you and your comments on this post.

~CF Boston Brian~

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To All Who Follow Me…

Thank you for your continued support in the following of my blog.  I don’t write or get on as much as I desire, but I am most appreciative of you all.

As this fourth of July passes on, I think about what it really means.  To some, it means freedom from another country.  To others, it means just another day.  Even others would think this is another day of oppression from what America stands for.  For whatever your reason, drop me a message or comment and let me know what you would like for me to write about and I will make it my point to publish it through wordpress.com.

Thank you.

~CF Boston Brian~

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