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Honesty versus Flirty

I understand and know men and women are different on most levels.  Why is it hard for a woman to be honest, yet it is not hard for most men to be honest?

 

A perfect example of this would be when a woman looks at a man and smile.  The two engage in conversation and the woman begins to touch him or hold his hand in little ways.  When the man makes a move to know more or ask her for an actual date, she would reject him.  She may say she just wanted to be “friendly.”  She may say she has a man, but thought you needed a friend to talk to.  Are you serious?  You touch me, smile at me, let me buy you drinks, and talk about our most personal experiences in life and you are just flirty?  So, why can’t that woman be honest to that man upfront?  Why lead him on? What would a woman think if a man does that to her?

 

Most men who have these types of experiences would push women away from them because they are afraid of the same repeating itself.  Most men would not return the smile and would have distance between him and the woman in order not to be touched by the woman.  Other men would not even look at women for the fear of being played or having a woman be flirty to them.

 

As I look back on my life and experiences, I can see why good guys finish last.  I can see why good guys don’t come across the finish line at all.  I can see why some men decide to be by themselves.  There are some men who can take hints and clues, but most of us don’t take hints or clues.

 

Am I upset or angry towards women?  No.  We are who we are.  I just wonder why is it hard for a woman to be something they EXPECT out of a man… honesty.  If a man is not honest a woman will feel used and think the guy is just into games.  If that is the case, what is it called when a woman does it?

 

~Boston Brian

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The Deal with Automobile Insurance

Automobile insurance was made mandatory in 1927.  Shopping around for automobile insurance is very hard to do.  They require your social security number, phone number, and e-mail address.  Most companies may use this information to sell to other companies in hopes to get you to agree to other insurance needs.  Some people have good home insurance from one company, but that does not mean that same company will provide you with a great rate on automobile insurance.

As we know, many factors go into determining a rate.  Of course, not all factors are relevant.  The relevant factors are age, driving record, previous coverage, type of vehicle, and geographical area.  The irrelevant factors are social security number and current phone number.

They say if you are a certain age, you are prone to driving fast or reckless.  Women automobile rates tend to be lower than men automobile rates.  Why?  Do companies believe women are the better drivers?  Do companies believe women are safer drivers?  I was involved in four accidents in my life.  Out of the four, three were actually caused by women.  Therefore, I don’t agree with the theory of women being better or safer drivers.  Don’t get me wrong.  Some are good drivers and others are not, but companies should not use this as a fact.  With age comes more responsibility and this is what the automobile insurance is supposed to look at, but some do not.  Driving record is always a factor.  You must release your driver’s license in order to have the companies look upon your driving history.  Previous coverage is always a good thing to use as a good negotiation tool.  I will explain more about that a bit later.  The type of vehicle can make a policy increase or decrease.  Let’s face it your premiums will be more expensive if you insure a Lexus versus insuring a Chevrolet.  If you live in an urban area, you can expect your premium to go up compared to if you live in a country area.  However, if you live in the metro city areas, your premiums can go up compared to living in the urban areas.  What that really boils down to is cost of living.  The higher the cost of living, the more your premiums may be as well.

A gap in your insurance coverage is not good.  Most companies would consider you to be a risk because you are insuring for a short about of time to get from paying over a length of time or jumping from insurance company to insurance company.  Think of this like employment.  If you are out of work for months and months it would be harder to find employment as the employer may believe you are not a good worker.  A company wants to hire someone that is employed because it show you are may be worth their investment.  This principle works with automobile insurance.

So the question is how to bring the premium to a more manageable expense?  How can you use previous coverage as a good negotiation tool?  When you shop around, I suggest the Progressive website.  Progressive tends to compare rates with other reputable companies instead of cut-rate insurance companies.  I do suggest a reputable company because if you do get involved in an accident, a cut-rate insurance company may take a long time to get you back on the road, if they can at all.  After you apply with an online quote, company the companies with your current insurance company.  This is where the trick comes into play.  If you are comfortable with your current insurance agency, ask them to do an evaluation on your policy.  Doing an evaluation on your policy is another way of asking if they can give you better quote since you have been with them for a good length of time.  Some companies will bring your cost down.  It is like getting refinanced on a vehicle after making payments for about a year or so.  A good example of this would be Company X brought my cost down about sixty dollars.  However, on the Progressive website, Company Y gave me a quote that is an additional twenty dollars off.  In other words, Company Y is going to charge me eighty dollars cheaper than what I have with Company X, even after the evaluation of my current policy.

Other notable traits would to be accident free, or a no-fault accident.  A no-fault accident is a crash that is not your fault.  It could be the result of nature (hitting an animal or weather) or someone hitting your vehicle.  Next, don’t have any moving violations.  Have continuous coverage on your vehicle for at least a year with the same company.  If you can, have your monthly payment deducted from your checking account.  When you opt for this service the insurance company will the willingness of being with them in the long haul and may provide an additional discount versus sending in a payment.

If you are tired of paying a high cost and you had been with your automobile insurance company for at least a year, you can ask them to do an evaluation on your policy to try to drive the cost down.  You are also free to check on different websites for a better rate. Again, I suggest the Progressive website that will compare costs with other reputable companies.  I have heard some say as well as the Bible say, “ask and ye shall receive.”  At times we don’t have because we have not asked.

~Boston Brian

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Who Finish Last?

The one thing I hear a lot of is “I’m sorry.”  What are you sorry about?  Why are you sorry?  Are you sorry for getting caught?

 

This is coming from episode after episode of cheaters.  Most episodes about women usually have the same outcome.  That outcome is the women who usually say “I’m sorry, but I did not want to hurt you.”  So, they did not want to hurt the man’s feelings because he is a very nice guy.  It’s funny that the guy they cheat on their boyfriend with is a bad boy.  Why can’t they be honest and say the guy is just too nice and they need a man who is going to dog them out because that is what they are either used to or want?  Ultimately, that is what the women are saying.   Most women are attracted to the bad boy and have men who are too nice as an arm piece.  They are usually in tears and want to talk about things after getting caught as they are afraid of being left out in the street from the home shared by their soon to be ex-boyfriend, yet they had no desire to talk before being caught.  The women want to beg for forgiveness when they see two men fighting over them in the effort of finding the truth.  They have the nerve to have their identity withheld because of what?  They are not concerned with their identity while they are cheating.  It is like someone in the Klu Klux Klan wearing a cheat to conceal their identity because they are afraid of getting chastise if their face is truly revealed.  Although the police is the new Klu Klux Klan, but that is a different write.

 

I’m sorry, but I don’t fight another man over any woman.  If a woman cheats on me, I am not taking it up with him, but with the woman because she knows better.  I was raised to open doors for women.  I was raised with treating women with respect.  I was raised not to use the term “female” to describe a woman.  A woman is a woman just like a man is a man.

 

Don’t get me wrong, men cheat too and they usually have the excuse of “it’s not like that” or “what are you doing?”  This posting is not about the man cheating, but about the woman cheating.  In reference of who finish last the question remains.  Do nice guys finish last?  Do women refuse to date a nice guy as the last man on this earth?  Lots of younger women refuse to settle down with a nice guy.  They want that bad boy.  As they get older, they began to see the damage of their cheating as Karma comes back and bites them in the azz.  All of this is a vicious circle that gets worse from generation to generation.  In my experiences women have children at a very young age and they are forced to settle down a bit more due to the child.  Now, they want a good man because their situation has changed.  Is this what it takes to desire a good guy?

 

Some say nice guys finish first.  Some say nice guys finish last.  I say nice guys don’t finish at all; not even if he is the last man on this earth.  I cannot wrap my brain to think how bad boys get the most attractive woman or have a collection of fine looking women, and men who really deserve a woman is left in the sea as shark bait.  Most nice guys get the women that others don’t want.  These women are usually extremely overweight.  These women are usually not too educated.  These women are those who are really not your type, but you are forced to date them because you cannot find a woman who is your type and you are getting older.  These women have children and they cannot find the type of man they really want due to the change in their circumstance(s).  Some tell me I am too picky, but answer me this question.  Should I really lower my standards in order to date a woman who is very obese, not educated and cannot speak with proper English when the time calls for it, or have a village of children then realize other men are not attracted to them?  Like other men and women, I want to be in love with a woman who is going to love me for me and care for me, but I believe I should not sell myself short to get what I really don’t want.

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People Ask Me Why…

When I tell others who my team for football is, they often ask why.  Since 1984, I loved the Chicago Bears from Chicago, Illinois.  Like every Chicago Bear fan, I was ecstatic when the Chicago Bears won the Super bowl in 1985.  With the ups and downs, I still held true to my Chicago Bears.  I bought a heavy coat, hats, a Walter Payton jersey, and a Brian Piccolo jersey.

Other people choose their teams due to team colors, gang affiliation(s), and what they may see celebrities wear in support for different teams.  I will admit there are certain colors I am attracted to, but I don’t like the team.  I am a Leo, so the Lion is my Zodiac sign, but that doesn’t mean I should buy everything Detroit Lions.  The Saint Louis Cardinals give all military personnel free tickets when they play at home, but that does not mean I have to buy everything Saint Louis Cardinals.  I am from Boston, but that does not mean I have to be a Boston Red Sox fan.  To be plain, I will not wear something due to team colors and I am not affiliated in a gang.  It is a shame that gangs pick certain teams as their “cut.”  Cut is a term used by motorcycle clubs in connection to their jackets and/or color affiliation(s).

I grew up despising this team.  I grew up hating everything they stood for.  I thought of this team as slime due to their team colors.  If you would have to guess the team, who would you guess that I despise?    You are correct… the Green Bay Packers.  I did not care who was on the team.  I would call them Slime Bay or the Slackers.  I recorded the first Chicago Bears preseason game against Denver Broncos.  Instead of recording this game it recorded the career of Bret Favre.  The highlights of his ups and downs as well as his addiction to pain killers were very interesting.  He overcame by looking for help of his addiction.  This brought me to a new level of respect for Bret Favre.   The more I viewed the film of his career, the more I liked him.  The more I viewed the team as a whole, the more I see how compassionate they are.  They all tend to have fun and money was never a big issue with any of the players.

Someone told me the “G” on the Green Packers’ Helmet means Greatness.  As with other people in the football world, I though the “G” was for Green Bay; or Slime Bay as I referred to them as.  As I researched what the “G” stood for on the helmet, it is true.  George Braisher in 1961 created the trademark logo which we see on the helmets of the Green Bay Packers today.  Since then, Georgia Bulldogs and Grambling State Tigers have asked Green Bay if they could use the logo, in their own way of course.  Green Bay gave them permission to use the logo, but not the exact logo.  This information came from the Business Insider, which is a reputable news source.  When I read and researched this information, I was compelled to change from the Chicago Bears to the Green Bay Packers.  I know a lot of people would not like my choice of team and may consider me as a traitor, but I like teams that matter to me.  If I buy a hat or team apparel, you bet I have a reason for it; and a good reason at that.

I consider myself “Great” in so many ways.  Some may not agree with me and believe I am vain.  I have a belief that is very simple.  If I don’t believe I am great or phenomenal, who will?  I often referred to myself as phenomenally awesome.  I say that often because I believe the more I say it in my head, the more I will believe it.  It is like watching uplifting YouTube videos that tell you to say certain things to yourself to help you though the things that are putting you down in life.  On that note, I am awesome.  I am phenomenally awesome.  I am number one.  I am great.

I will not give up my Walter Payton or Brian Piccolo jerseys because I consider them to be great players with heart and passion, but I will sport the “G” for Greatness to remind myself daily of who I am in my eyes, in my parent’s eyes, and in my dog’s eyes.

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~Boston Brian

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What We Cannot Say…

At times, people have a way of putting words together that we cannot express ourselves.  I consider myself to be a good guy.  I never said I love you first to anyone.  They usually say it to me, even my family; but they know I love them by the special things I do to show it.

I have not many friends because I had been hurt a lot before.  Some had made fun of me because of my race and culture.  Others had attempt to bully me because of the things my parents had and I was given good things in my life by them.  Even some made fun of me because I would die for my dog, knowing they have a short life span on earth.  I see people take for granted of the little things in life.

Watching YouTube videos most times, I have learned things about myself that I would not have known before.  I have learned what it is like to be homeless with nothing.  I have learned what it is like to be ridiculed and toss around like a bag.  I have learned what it is like to be afraid.  I have learned what it is like to be loved.  I have seen through the eyes of a dog about pain, resentment, and hurt.  I have seen through the eyes of other animals that are hunted for game not as a source of nourishment.

I look out of my window in my home and stare at the green grass and listen to the birds sing.  I look at white butterflies that fly around the home.  I look at my vehicle sparkle as the sun bounces off it.  I look at the wind blowing the tops of the trees.  I look at the high flying hawks and wonder what it is like to be that free.

Afraid of being who I am, there is one thing no one can take away from me, well actually two things.  The first thing is my education and knowledge.  The second thing is how loved I am by family and God.

I will like to share a video with you.  I hope you enjoy it and find it comforting in some way.

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Are All Men Created Equal?

There had been issues that arise during the beginning of time in this new world we call America.  One major issue is the question of equality which haunts all people of African descent and it’s the same question that people of European descent choose to ignore; or put restrictions on.  Another issue in America is how loosely the word “nigger” is used by not just the people of African descent, but of all people and why.

 

Let’s look at the word “nigger.”  What does it really mean?  If you ask your relative, friend, or any other person all over the world, they would say it means a black person.  It is a racial slur to degrade black people.  We can say the Spaniards or the French came up with this word.  It is not true.  The Spaniards say “Negro” which is nowhere near the word “nigger.”  The French say “Negre” which is, again, nowhere near the word “nigger.”  So how do people in the English language come up with this word?  Is it the same as other people call people who light white and those who are dark black?  I bet people never look at the definition before making an application that talks about… please choose a race.  Merriam-Webster defines black as being people of African or dark pigmentation of the skin.  Could this mean those from the country of India are considered black since they have dark pigmentation?  Yet, as you keep reading Merriam-Webster’s definition of black, it states thoroughly sinister or evil, wicked, very sad, gloomy, etc.  Can you say that every black person you had come in contact with is wicked or evil as stated by Merriam-Webster?  So why is black used to describe ALL people of African descent who are of dark pigmentation?  The reason why I say of dark pigmentation is due to the fact there are those of light pigmentation who are African as well.  Merriam-Webster defines white as being people of European or light pigmentation of the skin.  Yet, as you keep reading Merriam-Webster’s definition of white, it states innocent, pure, not intended to cause harm, etc.  Can you say that every white person you had come in contact with is innocent or never meant any harm as stated by Merriam-Webster?  So why is white used to describe ALL people of European descent?  It still does not prove that “nigger” means black because it is a word made up word.   I don’t know how others get “nigger” out of negro or negre, unless they wanted to make up a word and call it black or do it out of their ignorance.  A lot of people use this word very loosely in their everyday conversations.  Why use a word when it plainly states it is used as a racial slur to degrade a group of people?  If a person is in a wheelchair, do you believe that person would want to be called handicapped rather than a cripple?  Hulk Hogan, a famous wrestler with friends of all races, was even caught using the word “nigger.”  When being interviewed about his daughter’s relationship with a guy of African descent, he said “I mean, I’d rather if she was going to fuck some nigger, I’d rather have her marry an 8-foot-tall nigger worth a hundred million dollars!  Like a basketball player!  I guess we’re all a little racist.  Fucking nigger.”  Would he be just fine if Brooke was to date a guy of European descent who lived in a trailer?  Later, Hulk Hogan, also known as Terry Bollea, apologized by saying that is not who he is.  People tend to say what is on their mind.  As the saying goes… give it time and people will expose their true colors.  Okay, I am paraphrasing that saying.  After exposure from the media and thinking about what was actually said, WWE removed him for the WWE Hall of Fame.  Terry said he is disappointed in who he is because of such language.  Is he, or is he ashamed that he got caught being himself in his first mind?  It is amazing how I looked up to him when I first started watching wrestling as he would often say to the audience to take your vitamins and say your prayers.  Now, I question who he were speaking to.

 

In the King James Version of the Holy Bible, there are two verses that state all men are created equal.  Genesis 1:27 state “So God created man in his [own] image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them.”  Galatians 3:28 state “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.”  These two versus, out of many more versus, plainly state all men are created equal.

 

Even former President Abraham Lincoln in his Gettysburg Address said all men are created equal.  The second paragraph in the Declaration of Independence states, “We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the Pursuit of Happiness.”  Some people have an issue with the term “self-evident.”  Self-evident merely mean evident without proof or reasoning.  The Bible provides the information needed in which the Declaration of Independence is based upon in regards to all men are created equal.

 

There are some who want to argue that all men are not created equal.  I don’t want to go on a preaching rant, so I will try to keep this short.  I believe Dr. Kathryn Seifert misunderstood what is behind the actual meaning of “all men are created equal.”  As stated in Genesis, God created man in his own image.  This means all men are PERFECT in the image of God.  Our bodies, our brain, our organs, our systems, etc. are from God and created by God as if He was looking in the mirror at Himself.  As man began to sin and fall, their minds began to change.  I believe she is talking about after the fall of man regarding the changing of the mind.  After all, Jesus said the wages of sin is death.  In short, Jesus said He came to fulfill the law, not to abolish it.  The New Testament reiterates the issue of proving all men are created equal in Galatians 3:28.  As far as the President goes, he is the one that pardon a racist police sheriff before his sentencing.  To me, that displays a very clear message.  President Trump wants to say some are born beautiful and some are not.  Some are born smart and others are not.  This gives the reasoning for his statement back in 2009.  However, the Old Testament says we are created in God’s image and after the fall of man, the New Testament says we are still equal.  This would mean even after the fall of man, there are some not born smart and others are born smart.  There are some born beautiful and others not born beautiful.  The one thing that really bothers me that I must write about is a writer from Christianity Today who believes the Bible never said all men are created equal.  I think the writer is missing the point.  Earlier, I wrote we are all created in His image.  Things changed after the fall of man, BUT we are all still created in His image in body.

 

It’s really a shame that we are still fighting the Civil War today.  It is true the Civil War is over and we knew and understood who the enemy was.  In today’s world, the enemies are all around us without sheets, hoods, and without the confederate uniform.  What is the difference between then and now?  Back then, people did things more in the open.  Today, people are more subtle in their comments and police are on a rampage in killing the less fortunate.

 

~CF Boston Brian

 

 

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Why Did Conor McGregor Lose To Floyd Mayweather Jr.?

 

 

How could someone train in a sport that is considered one of the most brutal sports in the entire world lose to a boxing champion?  How could this be?  First we have to understand the rules of both Mixed Martial Arts and Boxing.

In Mixed Martial Arts, there are three rounds.  Each round is three minutes in length with one minute rest between rounds.  Championship rounds can go up to five rounds.  As stated earlier, each round is three minutes in length with a one minute rest between rounds.  Mixed Martial Arts use brute force and strength to overpower your opponent fast and quick.  You can also use all parts of your body as weapons against the other, except for head-butting, which makes it for a more versatile and unrestricted sport.  Due to this, we have a cause and effect relationship.  The cause of using all parts of the body would have an effect of landing more illegal blows because it is not really controlled.  Once your opponent is down, the aggressor can continue to pound away, within the specific guidelines, until the referee stops the bout, resulting in a knockout for the aggressor.  Mixed Martial Arts competitors must have stamina and endurance to handle at least five rounds of fighting.

 

In Boxing, it can be up to ten rounds.  Each round is three minutes in length with one minute rest between rounds.  Championship rounds can go twelve rounds.  Boxing uses brute force and speed, along with endurance, to overpower your opponent.  Generally, Boxers would take about two or three rounds just to get used to their opponent compared to Mixed Martial Arts.  Boxers only use their hands as means of delivering punishment to the other fighter.  Because of this, there are not as many illegal blows because it is a bit more controlled.  Once your opponent is on the canvas, the aggressor must go to a neutral corner so the referee can begin the ten-count.  If the fighter is unable to get up during this ten-count, the aggressor wins the bout by way of knockout.  The referee can also stop the bout for safety reasons, causing the aggressor to win by technical knockout.  Boxing competitors must have stamina and endurance to handle up to twelve rounds of fighting.

 

Now we understand a bit more about Mixed Martial Arts and Boxing, we can make a determination about what happened to Conor McGregor.  Don’t get me wrong, I think both fighters are very exceptionally good fighters.  Conor’s record is twenty-one wins with eighteen by knockout and three losses.  In my book, that is a damn good record. Floyd’s record is forty-nine wins with twenty-seven by knockout and no losses.  In my book, that is perfect. I understand many people don’t like Floyd Mayweather Jr.  Maybe it is because Floyd is cocky.  I personally like Floyd Mayweather Jr. and I believe he has a right to be cocky.  If you had his record, would you?  I know I would.  He backs up his cockiness.  I believe conditioning was what cost Conor McGregor the bout.  Conor’s conditioning could have been about five rounds or so because he is used to having that type of endurance.  Floyd’s conditioning is a lot longer because he is used to having the type of endurance to go twelve rounds or longer.

This fight reminded me of the Muhammad Ali versus George Forman fight in Zaire, Africa.  Muhammad forced George to punch himself out in the early rounds.  When Muhammad saw the opportunity, he seized it with great fashion to win the bout.  I believe that is what happened in this fight.  Floyd allowed Conor to hit him with some hard shots, thus getting tired as the rounds went on and Floyd seized the opportunity to take command in the latter rounds.  If Conor trained for endurance for the latter rounds, I am sure it would be a good fight until the end.  Endurance is the key in most bouts, as well as skill.  Conor is heavily skilled in the Mixed Martial Arts world.  Floyd is heavily skilled in the Boxing world.  Floyd improves his record to fifty wins and no losses.  I toast both fighters for a job well done.  I long time ago, I called Muhammad Ali the cerebral assassin in the heavy weight division.  I use the same term with Floyd Mayweather in his weight class.

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~CF Boston Brian

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